How to Navigate Toxic Feminine Women & Fake Spiritual Woke Boys
How to Recognize Toxic Feminine Women and Fake Spiritual “Woke” Boys
Any woman walking the brave path of healing and feminine embodiment will eventually cross paths with these two archetypes:
The toxic feminine woman and the spiritual f*ck boy.
The Modern Spiritual Illusion
On the surface, they appear aligned, wearing the same mask of “empowerment” and “healing.” But underneath, both uphold the very power structures they pretend to be dismantling.
They’re the wish.com version of feminine embodiment, cheap imitations of what real feminine power is meant to be.
In this blog, we’ll look at:
What makes a toxic feminine woman
What defines a spiritual f*ck boy
Why they’re the same villain in disguise
What true feminine embodiment actually feels like
Authenticity vs. Performative Spirituality
@mystictwinsgh
How can you tell if someone is genuinely spiritual, or just performing spirituality for attention, validation, or gain?
Sometimes it’s ego-driven. Sometimes it’s profit. And sometimes it’s pure image, a bid to be seen as “enlightened” on TikTok.
As the saying goes:
“The devil is in the details.”
When you slow down and really observe - especially accountability, emotional maturity, and how they handle conflict - the illusion cracks.
My Experience in the Wellness Scene
When I first dove into my own healing journey, I was in Thailand, a literal sea of healers, teachers, and facilitators.
At first, I believed that anyone who could speak the spiritual language or had a certification must be conscious and embodied.
I attended everything: rebirthing sessions, women’s circles, yoni healing workshops. It was intoxicating, and honestly, I was naive.
Over time, I realized that some of the most unhealed people I met were in that same scene. People fluent in the language of “healing” but disconnected from their own shadows.
Let’s break down what I eventually learned to see beneath the mask.
What Is Toxic Femininity?
Toxic femininity can exist in anyone, but here we’re talking about women who weaponize “feminine” qualities, using them for validation, power, or performance rather than healing.
She’s often seen teaching yoga, leading circles, or posting goddess content online while avoiding her own unresolved pain.
Common Behaviors of the Toxic Feminine Woman:
Self-abandonment: Suppressing her needs to appear peaceful or agreeable.
People-pleasing: Over-giving to gain validation, followed by resentment or passive aggression.
Weaponizing softness: Using victimhood or fragility to manipulate and avoid responsibility.
Policing other women: Shaming others who don’t conform to her “goddess” ideal.
Passive aggression: Avoiding direct communication, especially around conflict.
Performative femininity: Cosplaying as “divine feminine” with flowy dresses, sensual photos, “goddess” language while being disconnected from true embodiment or activism.
True feminine energy runs deeper.
It’s not about looking a certain way, it’s about feeling everything from grief to rage to joy.
What Is a Spiritual F*ck Boy?
He’s the self-proclaimed “conscious man” who preaches presence but practices avoidance. He talks about “ego deaths,” “twin flames,” and “alignment”, but it’s all surface-level.
You’ll find him in yoga classes, drum circles, or wellness podcasts, often using spiritual language as a flirtation tactic.
Common Behaviors of the Spiritual F*ck Boy:
All talk, no embodiment: His daily actions contradict his supposed values.
Performative vulnerability: Talks about feelings but lacks real emotional availability.
Spiritual bypassing: Hides behind “good vibes only” to avoid accountability.
Avoids depth: Uses “raising my vibration” as an excuse to disengage from real-world issues.
Exploits feminine spaces: Gains validation or sexual access through women’s healing communities.
True masculine consciousness isn’t about performance, it’s about accountability and empathy.
Two Faces, One Energy
After years in spiritual spaces, I realized the toxic feminine woman and the spiritual f*ck boy are the same archetype in different bodies.
Both crave validation.
Both hide behind performative mindfulness.
Both reject true embodiment.
It’s the same script, different costume.
And at their core, both perpetuate patriarchal, avoidant, and disconnected behavior patterns.
What Real Feminine Energy Feels Like
Feminine energy is embodied, not performed. It’s felt through your body, intuition, and emotions.
@ciciholliday
How to Stay Rooted in Actual Feminine Energy:
Do your shadow work: Feel your pain instead of projecting it.
Welcome every emotion: Let sadness, anger, and joy coexist.
Set boundaries: Speak truth instead of pleasing others.
Practice embodiment: Breathwork, movement, nature, womb connection… these bring you back home.
Engage consciously: A truly embodied woman faces societal realities - such as sexism and racism - instead of bypassing them.
When you live from your body and truth, you’ll naturally see through performative spirituality.
Final Thoughts: Moving Beyond the Illusion
The toxic feminine woman and the spiritual f*ck boy make spirituality look fake, but don’t let that turn you away from the real thing.
Authentic feminine energy isn’t curated or commercial.
It’s about feeling everything.
I’m sending you love to do your shadow work, rediscover your body, and reclaim your authentic feminine power.
And when you’re ready, come home to yourself and embody your feminine.
Thanks for listening,
Joss Frank | Yoga Therapist C-IAYT
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